I want to ask all my female readers, has any of you ever had to tell the marriage fib to get out of a man pursuing you? marriage fib here meaning that you're single, and by single you could or could not be in a relationship but definitely not married. So there's this guy showing some interest and to shut him down and/or the only way to get out of it is saying you're married and even then your been married is not enough because men nowadays cannot take a no for a no and despite telling them you're married gets them more interested? I mean someone please tell what in the world is going on? One even had the nerve to tell me I didn't have a married woman's voice. Pardon my ignorance but how exactly do married women talk?
The other had the nerve to want to hang out with my significant other and I to prove the fact that I am indeed 'taken'? the other the nerve to offer me a warm can of natural light beer he pulled out of a black plastic bag. I mean really? what happened to men respecting the fact that a woman is taken and/or not interested and taking that as a hint to back off? have days evolved that much? are men not men enough to take no for an answer? does it have anything to do with those who have preceded us? might they have said no and meant yes thus giving men the idea that when we say no in reality we mean yes ? or is chivalry indeed dead?
I'd want to say it's not dead based on personal judgement e.g. the other day I'm cruising the parking lot where all spots were taken and this guy was loading up his car and had a few more trips to make between the car and his apartment. And when he noticed my futile attempts to find a spot he offered to move his car to a 20 minute spot and gave me his spot. I mean if that is not a perfect example of a gentlemen I don't know what is. A sign that chivalry just might not be dead. Not all the way, at least not for me. Yet I know such incidences are far and in between. Still better half a loaf than not?
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hmmm
the marriage fib.
no i've never had to go that route,
i just say i'm in a relationship which i am
i guess i'm fortunate because i'm not exactly approachable so ....
Walmart
last week i went to walmart and this random guy walks up to me and asks me out just like that he had to be at least 45 (i'm 26) and he was like "i could tell you were an african princess are you here with your parents, can i call you?"
so yeah
we live in weird times
yes, yes and yes to everything!
i remember coming home and telling the s.o. that a bus driver had asked to take me out to dinner and, when i told him i was in a relationship, he said, "well my middle name is discreet."
i think i have once told the marriage fib but then then you have to explain why you don't wear a ring. that said, i have a guy friend who wears a fake wedding ring, so it's not always women.
but, you know, about chivalry, or lack thereof, maybe it is a sign of the way people are being raised that leads to this lack of consideration. either that of the men believe that they are in short supply and we are desperate for them, no matter what we say...
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